“The truth is, unless you let go, unless you forgive yourself, unless you forgive the situation, unless you realize that the situation is over, you cannot move forward.”
― Steve Maraboli,
Losing friends or even loved ones such as family is a tremendously difficult thing to go through but those before us tell us over and over that it is an integral part of life.
I honestly found this hard to accept. I mean, as an emotional person, it is heartbreaking to lose what you had thought was an important person(s) in your life.
It just gets to a point whereby you believe there must be something either physically or mentally wrong with you that it would be so easy for so many people over the years to walk out of your life or just simply drift away.
As this year is rapidly coming to a close, It has become so apparent to me that you know what – maybe they were right after all.
After a few months of introspection and focusing on what’s for me – I am at a place in my life whereby happiness has become me. It seems as though I was in need of a great big Laundry Day.
“Have patience with everything that remains unsolved in your heart. …live in the question.”
― Rainer Maria Rilke, Letters to a Young Poet
We all just need time to kind of figure things out and “spring clean” our lives.
Recognizing the toxicity that plagues one’s mind and soul – that’s an important step.
Yes, sometimes a “spring clean” is unexpected and involuntary but look at it this way: what if it’s God’s way of doing it for you? After all, He knows the plans he has for your life – let him take the wheel.
“You can spend minutes, hours, days, weeks, or even months over-analyzing a situation; trying to put the pieces together, justifying what could’ve, would’ve happened… or you can just leave the pieces on the floor and move the fuck on.”
― Tupac Shakur
As I look back on this year – the hurt, the healing, the mistakes made, the lessons learnt – it is a testament to growing up or maturing so to speak.
“Laundry Day” isn’t about cutting people off, it’s about mental and emotional health. It’s ensuring you make room for what’s for you and pray for what’s against you.
The process may not be pretty, never is, but you need to be fully present for it. The ability to experience every single second of life – especially the parts we either choose to avoid or work hard not to encounter.
Surrender to the process.
It takes great strength and maturity to let go and let God.
Own it, because you possess it.
After all, the hardest part is washing the clothes – wearing them is what excites us.
Gleam & Glow.
[ All images by Marc Herve ]
Stay beautiful, stay blessed
– Amanda Klaas xx